Common Things Said to Interracial Couples
Black women white men dating is become common, but many people still aren't used to the idea of romantic relationships that involve people of different races.
When you are in an interracial relationship, you can expect some surprised people to ask you a lot of annoying questions, and say a lot of annoying things.
Here are a few of the things that interracial couples hear most often.
1."You're so brave!"
This is one of those statements that seems like a compliment to the person saying it, but it's actually not. People are implying that your relationship exist for a reason other than your love.
You are not dating because you are attracted to each other – you must be dating to make a statement. As all people in interracial relationships know, this is usually not the case.
Sure, some rebellious teenagers might date someone from a different race just to upset their parents, but that's more the exception than the rule.
Most interracial couples are just like all other couples. They're in love and they want to be together. Bravery and making a statement doesn't factor into it.
2."They must be good in bed!"
A white woman dating a black man will be facing a lot of inappropriate questions regarding their sex life, just like black men dating white women, and black woman dating white men, and so on.
There are certainly a lot of racial stereotypes around sex that need to be challenged and this is a tricky question to answer.
Nobody wants to feed into a stereotype – but nobody wants to say their partner is bad in bed either. The best answer is usually telling whoever is asking to mind their own business.
3."But what about your children?"
A common argument against interracial relationships is that the children of such a couple won't have any identity. This is simply not true. There are a lot of ways to raise a mixed child to have a wealth of culture, from both sides, so this argument is completely obsolete. That doesn't make it any less annoying when people ask it though.
The best reaction is to simply ask them what about their children who will have to deal with only having one culture.
4."How did your parents react?"
This question might not be inappropriate when asked by a friend who knows your family dynamics, but it is offensive for a stranger to assume that your parents must have had some problem with your biracial relationship.
Remember that you don't have to answer any personal questions when you don't want to. Simply avoid the topic or let them know that you are not comfortable discussing it.
5."Is it true what they say about [insert stereotype here]?"
There are countless stereotypes that will be part of your conversations with people who learn that you are dating interracially. While you could take the time to educate them about stereotypes, you are also well within your rights to simply roll your eyes and ignore them.